Relationships are a constant learning experience, and travelling with a significant other can be a little challenging. Some people tend to start out travelling on their own, with family, or with friends. Anyone who travels knows, however far the destination may be, there will always be hiccups along the way. Once a long-term relationship comes into the balance, however, certain emotions can rise up. Interestingly enough, the person whom you are most comfortable with still isn’t a mind-reader. Here is Kayla’s take on how to enjoy travelling with a significant other with her story.
The Art of Traveling With Your S.O.
Traveling with your significant other can be tricky. In fact, I remember a friend once describing it as an experience that could make or break a relationship.
In general, traveling with others takes communication and patience. No two people are exactly identical in their opinions and desires, which means trip planning takes a little compromise. It’s no different (and especially important) with a boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner. I say this because people in relationships often take each other for granted. Long flights, delays, and unexpected mishaps take a toll on a person, so it’s understandable that things can get tense.
The idea is to relax, and always be respectful towards one another. Talk to each other immediately if something bugs you. This is applicable even when you’re not traveling– nothing good comes of stifling your feelings. For example, I can be a bit of a hog when it comes to who’s in charge of car music. Fortunately, my boyfriend Steve told me because he got annoyed one day. Without thinking, I changed the one song he decided to put on during the entire car ride. Before, this wasn’t even something I thought about. Now, I try to be more conscious of taking turns with the music (let’s be honest though, my playlists are the best… just kidding).
Splitting up Tasks
Another way we compromise is when we go camping. He’s in charge of the fire, and I assemble the tent. The first time we were setting a campsite up in Oregon, I asked him to leave me alone with the tent. I knew that if he tried to help me, there was the potential for us to clash, especially because 1) building a tent is notoriously frustrating and 2) I really like to figure things out on my own at my own pace. He tended to the fire, and I actually put it together without many problems. At one point, I did ask for his help with driving the tent stakes into the ground.
Steve and I are both pretty mellow people to begin with, which definitely helps when we travel together. Still, something I always remind myself is that things rarely go as planned. When you’re planning a trip to a new destination, sure, you can pick points of interest. However, it’s difficult to try to do/stick to an hour-by-hour itinerary. Things come up randomly, so flexibility is absolutely key.
Traveling Solo versus S.O.
I think I’ve finally come to the conclusion that I do enjoy traveling with others more. I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of my time traveling solo in Costa Rica this summer, but there were often times that I wanted to turn to someone and say, “Look at that amazing sunset.” I mean, I was able to do that with strangers, but it would’ve been even more wonderful to share that kind of experience with someone familiar.
As I mentioned above, to be able to have those kinds of moments requires patience and compromise. If you’re lucky, things always work out. If you’re like the rest of humankind, get ready for your adaptability to be tested!