Reclaiming You: When Relationships Ends, frazzle or Life is Shifting is a therapist-led healing group for women navigating relationship endings, separation, or divorce — including those who are still unsure and “in the middle.” This 6–12 week group offers a structured, trauma-informed process designed to help you stabilize your nervous system, process grief and confusion, rebuild self-trust, and reconnect with your sense of self without pressure to explain, defend, or make decisions before you’re ready. Through guided discussion, somatic tools, and reflective exercises, you’ll be supported in a safe, contained environment where complexity is honored and nothing about your experience needs to be rushed. The group is offered both in person and online, allowing you to participate in the way that feels most supportive during this season

What we will cover:

RECLAIMING YOU When Love Ends and Life Shifts

PART I — WHEN YOU’RE IN THE MIDDLE Clarity Before Decisions

1. When You’re Not Sure Yet
   “What If I’m the Problem?”
   Self-Reflection vs. Self-Blame

2. Understanding Narcissistic Traits & High-Conflict Patterns
   Traits vs. Diagnosis
   Common Behaviors and Conversation Dynamics

3. Symptoms of Relational Trauma
   Loss of Self-Trust
   Emotional Confusion and Exhaustion
   Nervous System Overload

4. Pattern vs. Problem
   Incidents vs. Repeating Patterns
   Accountability, Repair, and Change
   Pattern vs. Problem Worksheet

5. Is There Mutuality?
   Healthy Repair vs. One-Sided Effort
   The Cost of Staying Silent

PART II — R: REGULATE & RELEASE

Stabilization Phase

1. Why You Feel the Way You Do
   Shock, Grief, Rage, and Relief
   Trauma Responses During Relationship Loss

2. Grounding the Nervous System
   Somatic Check-Ins
   Emotional Containment

3. Naming the Losses
   Grieving the Relationship and the Dream
   Emotional Permission

4. Releasing What Isn’t Yours
   Responsibility vs. Burden
   Letting the Body Exhale

   
   

   PART III — O: OWN YOUR STORY

Identity & Shame Work

1. Shame vs. Responsibility
   Ending Blame Loops

2. Self-Betrayal and Survival
   Why You Stayed
   Compassion for the Parts That Survived

3. Who Am I Without This Relationship?
   Identity Reorganization
   Remembering Who You Were

4. Letting Go of Roles
   The Good Wife / Fixer / Peacemaker
   Parts Work and Inner Healing

PART IV — A: ASSERT & ALIGN

Boundaries, Power, and Voice

1. Boundaries as Self-Protection
   Clarity Without Guilt

2. Communicating Without Over-Explaining
   BIFF Communication
   Grey Rock and the One-Response Rule

3. High-Conflict & Narcissistic Dynamics
   No Emotional Access
   Boundary Scripts and Enforcement

4. Custody, Co-Parenting, and Parallel Parenting
   Staying Regulated in Triggering Exchanges

PART V — R: RISE & REBUILD

Future Self & Integration

1. Financial Fear and Self-Trust
   Rebuilding Confidence Through Competence

2. Reclaiming Autonomy
   Decision-Making After Self-Doubt
   Self-Trust Rebuilding Worksheet

3. Relationships After Loss
   Dating, Celibacy, or Intentional Singleness

4. Who You Are Becoming
   Future-Self Visualization
   Values-Based Living

Grieving the Dream While Honoring Growth

What You Know About Yourself Now

Coming Back to Yourself

HI - I’m Charla, and I have walked my own journey that included a divorce after 17 years of marriage and four kids. My heart is to help women restore and reclaim and maintain their sense of agency and health. Life is hard, & relational endings are heartbreaking, co-parenting can be challenging, and moving on painful, so I created this group to create a safe space for women to heal and realign and connect.

A therapist-led healing experience designed to support you through relationship loss with clarity, care, and stability. Participants receive weekly small-group sessions led by a licensed therapist, guided by a trauma-informed curriculum that addresses emotional regulation, identity disruption, boundaries, and self-trust after relational loss. The program includes a comprehensive workbook with reflective exercises, somatic tools, and practical boundary scripts to support integration between sessions. You’ll also have access to both in-person and online group options, allowing you to participate in the way that feels most supportive during this season. Throughout the program, you’ll be held in a contained, confidential environment where complexity is honored, pressure is removed, and healing is allowed to unfold at a steady, grounded pace.